Showing posts with label appreciation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label appreciation. Show all posts

Friday, May 26, 2023

Loving the Boundaries - Martin Wiles

Loving the boundaries
Don’t be misled—you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant. Galatians 6:7 NLT

The letters lay in box—the folds showing evidence of students who had never written letters by hand, never inserted them in envelopes, and never used snail mail.

 

The day was a typical one. During my planning period, I walked to the teacher's workroom to check my mailbox, which is normally empty. This time, ruffled-looking sheets of paper lay in my cubby. I noticed some in other teachers’ cubbies also. I pulled them out and saw my name hand-scribbled on them. When I opened the top one, I saw a handwritten note from a student. I quickly fumbled through the remaining ones and saw they too were from students in the various grades of middle school. Not having time to read them, I refolded them and hurried back to my room.

 

Later in the day when I had free time, I reopened the letters. The elective teacher had asked her students to write letters to teachers, telling them something nice. As I read, some students expressed surprise that I had put up with them for three years, but they appreciated it. One student remarked how awestruck she was that I had taught three generations of her siblings. She showed me her appreciation of English by taking a red pen and marking out a noticeable mistake. Another said he looked forward to my class every day. Still another thanked me for being so laid back and for not giving him lunch detention every time he deserved it. A few said I was their favorite teacher. One commented on how much she had learned and grown in my class.

 

What I hated in school and at home—boundaries—these students seemed to appreciate. I’m sure they appreciate the boundaries their parents place on them as well—although they would never tell them. On most days, I think students hate me for being so hard and for pushing them to the limits, but they are intelligent enough to know I do so for their good.

 

Paul talked about the boundary law when he used the example of agriculture. Whatever a farmer sows, he will harvest. A farmer doesn’t plant corn and harvest soybeans. This is the law of the boundaries.

 

I didn’t always appreciate the boundaries my parents placed on me—most of which represented God’s boundaries found in the Bible. But like my students, I knew they were beneficial. Because of my sinful nature, I would have run wild had boundaries been absent. Even with them, I often tested their confinement.

 

Just as I give much grace to my students when they cross the boundaries, so God does with us. He’s not sitting in heaven waiting for us to mess up so He can crush us. He establishes the boundaries to keep us on paths that are for our good. When we cross them, He gently guides us back inside the lines.

 

Boundaries teach us to trust God, to determine right from wrong, to grow as an individual, to establish our identity, to show love, and to prepare us for the future.

 

Learn to love the boundaries God places around you, for we find true freedom within them.

 

Prayer: Father, thank You for the boundaries You place on our lives. 


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Saturday, July 18, 2020

Show a Little Gratitude - Martin Wiles


Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 NLT
Creeping down the middle aisle of the school auditorium, they prostrate themselves before their teachers, then rise to present them a bouquet of flowers.
The above would be strange in the United States of America, but in countries such as Thailand, China, Singapore, Taiwan, South Korea, and Japan, the custom is well … customary. But in Thailand, students don’t only do that for their school teachers. According to the Thai culture guidebook, The Thai and I: Thai Society and Culture, “Every person … if he is to be truly Thai, should feel and express gratitude to mother and father teachers, and those who have supported or patronized him in any way.”
But in other countries, entitlement is the word of the day. According to the British Journal of Social Psychology, only twenty percent of American adults rated gratitude as a constructive and useful emotion. Indulgent parents and TV commercials are named among the culprits making our children ungrateful. American children see 40,000 commercials every year.
By failing to show gratitude, children miss out. Scientific data shows gratitude leads to psychological, physical, and social gains as well as happiness, healthy self-esteem, optimism, sleep quality, enhanced life satisfaction, decreased anxiety, lower depressive symptoms, and less body dissatisfaction.
Gratefulness releases a brain chemical known as oxytocin which promotes trust, attachment, empathy, intimacy, relaxation, generosity, calmness, and security (www.greatschools.org/gk/articles/we-dont-appreciate-the-value-of-gratitude).
Scientific research proves we should do what Paul said in the first century: “Be thankful in all circumstances.”
When gratitude isn’t the norm for me, I’ll fall into the entitlement trap—thinking I deserve every good thing that comes my way or that everything I experience in life should be good. If I think someone owes something to me, I probably won’t show much appreciation for it.
Avoiding the entitlement trap isn’t easy—but necessary to see life in the proper perspective. Nobody owes me anything, including God. All good things that come to me ultimately come from Him and constitute His blessings—the icing on the cake.
Showing gratitude places us in God’s will and helps us view the things we have … material or not … through the lenses of thankfulness, not expectations.
We can only live with an attitude of gratitude for God’s forgiveness and for God’s blessings—in whatever form they come—by appealing to God’s help, which He gladly provides.
Rather than thinking you are owed what you have, live believing anything you have is a blessing.
Prayer: Father, make us grateful so that we can enjoy life and appreciate You and others.

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