Friday, June 15, 2012

5 Things Men Should Find Attractive In Christian Women by Martin Wiles

Series: 5 Things A Man…
The 1960’s and 1970’s were challenging years, but it was when I came of age and began searching for a wife.

Amidst the sexual revolution, drugs and loose morals, I looked for one who hadn’t fallen prey to the times and who matched the Bible’s teaching about honorable wives. Living in the twenty first century, finding a good wife is more challenging, which may explain why thousands flock to online dating services that match personality traits.

According to King Lemuel-author of the proverb, finding good wives centuries ago may have been difficult too. A wife of noble character who can find? (Proverbs 31:10) But the difficulty of discovery doesn’t prevent him from listing what should characterize her.

Men find trust attractive. Her husband can trust her (v. 11 NLT). Relationships without it are doomed, and outside beauty can’t replace honesty. Trust is built over time, but can be destroyed by one unwise action.

Modesty is beautiful. Men may gawk at women with short skirts and low cut blouses, but they normally don’t want their wives dressed similarly. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns (v.22 NLT). Marriages built on physical attraction alone won’t endure.

Compassion is important. She extends a helping hand to the poor (v. 20 NLT). Good wives spend enormous time tending to their family’s needs but also extend themselves beyond their families.

A good wife is her husband’s companion. She brings him good, not harm (v. 12 NLT). Men often reflect macho attitudes-pretending we don’t need anyone, but we do.

Good wives are fearless. She laughs without fear of the future (v. 25 NLT). Men are also known for thinking we can conquer anything when deep inside we know we can’t.

Trust God to help you find an honorable wife if you haven’t, and if you have thank him daily for her.

Prayer: Father we thank You for honorable wives.


  1. This is great, Martin. Insightful, concise, practical. I think I'm going to enjoy this series. Keep it up! Thanks for linking to B&BB. May your week be blessed.

  2. I need to pass this on to my daughter~

  3. AMEN Martin, may all our Christian young men begin with these ideals in mind. And may our girls do the same!

  4. This is so true! Thanks you so much for writing this. I'd love to have you link this up to Titus 2 Tuesday at Cornerstone Confessions this week. Hopping over from 1-Minute Bible Love Notes.


  5. Wow - great post. Thank you for these 5 things. I pray you have a great weekend. Blessings from Zagreb. A Little R & R